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Notes from Dior Bediako, Certified Life Coach

All screenshots and presentation slides are curtesy of the webinar with Dior Bediako 05/03/2025

I literally just came from a webinar with Dior Bediako, certified life coach and speaker about goal setting for the impossible until it becomes possible. It was a very timely discussion and I didn’t just make notes, I am ready to take action. All these notes are straight from Dior’s talk, some slightly modified. This tea is to share:

Factors that might be holding you back from your goals:

• Lack of clarity- you need to do something but it’s not clear so you end up doing nothing

• Fear of failure - you don’t want to get it wrong so you don’t give yourself the chance to get it right

• Procrastination - it is like you are buffering e.g.:

  • You might have an uni assignment to do, but you also have laundry to do

  • The assignment is hard, the laundry is easy so you will distract yourself with the laundry because it makes you feel better that you accomplished something

  • While the uni assignment is hard and takes a longer time and you don’t think you can do it

  • You end up overriding the negative feeling associated with the uni assignment with a positive feeling of doing laundry

  • The issue is, the positive feeling is only temporary

• Overwhelmed by the magnitude of a task

• Lack of accountability - blaming everything and everyone else

• External factors - other major events beyond your control

• Self doubt - negative self talk that downplays your capability

• Lack of resources - physical and tangible limitations

• Unrealistic expectations - putting so much on effort on Monday then being exhausted for the rest of the week

Impossible Goals Discussion Notes:

• My impossible is possible

• Forget about the shiny object syndrome that focuses on the end product

• Focus on the journey

• You might look like you are overachieving to others, but the things you accomplish might not be your actual impossible goals

• There is so much she achieved but she wasn’t making money - making money was her actual impossible goal

• She was undervaluing what she was offering (her coaching memberships) because she didn’t truly believe in the value of it

• She had a brand called “rich and connected” but looking back it was a performance because even though she was connected, she didn’t truly believe she was rich

• Setting riches as her priority ended up being a limiting belief because it made her have the wrong goal

Future self concept

• Don’t create based on your past because that is where your limits live

• Imagine what it would feel like to truly believe that your impossible was possible

• Work backwards from success

• Think of every problem as a question because if you know you are successful in the future then you will have overcome the issue, figure out how to do this

• Have a future self goal

• Perfect plan vs realistic plan with future self - Have grace daily

• Start with your future self - write everything about your future self

• I am the most important part of this process, a long as I am growing day by day, I’m good

A vision and a goal is different and both necessary

• A vision is like a day in the life - it is continuous

• A goal is the (best) day of your life - the day you achieve it and the moment is highlighted

What do your goals mean - be as clear as possible

• Don’t just say you want to be recognised for your work - Say you want to be listed in Forbes 30 under 30

• Have you done research on how this vision can come to life?

• Don’t spend the whole time researching - make time to research, then act

• Your research should make the path to your goal as simple and clear as possible

• Do I know the very next steps to take?

Personal action: After this, I have now decided to do a minute of meditation every morning and night visualising my “impossible goals” until they have become possible. That minute of mediation can look like journaling, voice recording, making a video or sitting in silence with my eyes closed.

I am not letting this tea brew, I am drinking it straight from the pot before the leaves set and become bitter. It’s go time. Subscribe for more blog posts!